Thanks Russ. I have often said that this social contagion, of cutting off parents, is not sustainable. Part of the trend is to say "I'm not ready" when the parent pleads to work through it, and to say "I'll let you know if something changes." Many of these adults who have cut off their parents know in their hearts that their parents love them, and that they were raised in a flawed (because they all are) but loving family. They are secure in the feeling that they can come back at any time and pick up where they left off, but what they don't realize is the tremendous shattering they've created throughout the entire family by cutting off one family member. Certainly they will be welcomed back, and have always been loved, but how to repair the damage? They threw the stone in the pond, but have no control over the ripples.
It is a very strange phenomenon and likely aided by our ability to virtually connect with like-minded individuals wherever they live in the world. But it is unlikely that such connections can truly replace family relationships.
Wonderful, difficult words of encouragement to keep communications open. Hopefully, with time comes wisdom and healing for us as we grow. We are partly the sum of all those who have raised us and those whom we allow input into our lives and a lot of grace to understand what is worth keeping. Blessings!
Excellent and penetrating comments on a very sad situation. Thank you, Lori.
Thanks Russ. I have often said that this social contagion, of cutting off parents, is not sustainable. Part of the trend is to say "I'm not ready" when the parent pleads to work through it, and to say "I'll let you know if something changes." Many of these adults who have cut off their parents know in their hearts that their parents love them, and that they were raised in a flawed (because they all are) but loving family. They are secure in the feeling that they can come back at any time and pick up where they left off, but what they don't realize is the tremendous shattering they've created throughout the entire family by cutting off one family member. Certainly they will be welcomed back, and have always been loved, but how to repair the damage? They threw the stone in the pond, but have no control over the ripples.
An important them, delivered in a very sane voice.
Thanks, Lori.
Thank you Mark :)
It is a very strange phenomenon and likely aided by our ability to virtually connect with like-minded individuals wherever they live in the world. But it is unlikely that such connections can truly replace family relationships.
Wonderful, difficult words of encouragement to keep communications open. Hopefully, with time comes wisdom and healing for us as we grow. We are partly the sum of all those who have raised us and those whom we allow input into our lives and a lot of grace to understand what is worth keeping. Blessings!